Imagine you have been an active member of society, getting up, going to work, visiting family, friends, going to the gym or anything that your passion entices you to. However, in a blink of an eye, the society you once were living in suddenly stops.
That society becomes an oppression of the zero to a million thoughts inside your head. You can’t get out of bed to go make money, keep fit or follow dreams. Your mum calls, you start feeling guilty because you didn’t answer it for the 16th time that day, however, you’re feeling relieved to not talk to anyone.
When depression hits you, you feel immense pain. Not the physical pain, but the emotional pain. Nothing hurts more when it comes to a fight between you and your own brain. In some cases no one wins, especially if don’t have any support from no one. More than likely you are unable to tell anyone at this moment because your ashamed and really don’t understand it yourself. For this very point alone, I will say that it’s ok, well for now at least. However what if I told you, soon you can be able to talk to someone and seek help? Seeking help I believe is very important to help learn how to manage. How? By getting yourself out of the deep end. Below are three suggestions I personally believe to be very important starting points for you changing your life with depression. I’m not saying this will work for you, but would you be how to say you tried?
Accepting and understanding you’re changing.
Accepting it is one of the hardest things to do in this whole process. However, once you accept that this is your life right now, read about it. Read about other people’s experiences and find websites that are informative and helpful to you. This may take some time in doing. However the more knowledge you obtain the more you will start to understand.
Imagine you start a brand new job, and you were chucked in the dead end with no help and no training. Majority of the time you wouldn’t understand what needed to be done. Although, through this process you eventually teach yourself which methods are used to keep the boss happy. When you finally feel comfortable in your new role, you feel proud because you accomplished something you started having no idea about it. That was all you and no one else.
Having depression is like being chucked in the deep end, it really feels like you need to do it alone. You learn about it, you organise it, you train it but most importantly you become accepting and understand what you have and are about to face.
Don’t rush, your not superman right now.
If you were in an accident where it involved losing an arm, do you think the arm that is still attached to you would of be blaming it self? You would have to put hard work in to retrain that arm, that way the one arm can do what both arms did together originally. Sure, it will never be perfect like it was, however you took the time to learn how to use everything. You got to be how to cook, clean, and every other daily chores.
The most common mistake I made when faced with depression, was the fact I thought I could just jump straight into it like nothing was happening. I took a little time off work when it first hit me. Trying to just move on I went back to work only having two weeks off. After a couple of weeks being at work, I disappeared and they never saw me again for months. I once again detached from the world. It made me feel more useless and made the whole situation worse. It got to the point I never left my room for quite sometime. I felt sick even at the thought of going to the letterbox. It took a while for me to learn that I needed to take time with this.
We all heard of “take baby steps” I’m telling you some days it betters to crawl. Which is fine, as long as you keep crawling to get where you need to be. They can be as simple as:
Taking a shower: feeling fresh and clean can have a lot of benefits.
- Doing the dishes and tidy the house: Clear house, clearer head
- Wash/change your clothes: Changing clothes helps with hygiene problems through dirty clothes
Sit in the Sun: We as human need the sun, which gives us good energy.
Give Yourself Loads of Praise
When someone praises you for milestone in life, it makes you feel pretty good don’t it? However let me ask you this: when was the last time you gave yourself a pat on the back? In this dark time every pat counts. If you had that shower after five days, done the dishes or just did something you haven’t been able to, then try this. First ask yourself how it made you feel. It’s very important to note what you’re feeling; because you want to do more of the things that make you feel better. No matter what, praise yourself say something like: “Good Job, the house looks better when I tidy up” or “ It’s been along time since I had a shower. It feels good to know that I went through with it and cant believe how clean and fresh I feel.” Obviously, say what you would think would boost your confidence.
These three things are not going to solve all your problems. However it may very well get you confident enough to start the real process of learning to get your life back. With or without depression you can still thrive in a world of chaos.
I wish everyone lots of blessings on their journeys to find what works for them.