Imagine you have been an active member of society, getting up, going to work, visiting family, friends, going to the gym or anything that your passion entices you to. However, in a blink of an eye, the society you once lived in suddenly becomes a stranger.
When society turns into a stranger, it becomes an oppression of the zero to a million thoughts thats inside your head. You can’t get out of bed to go make money, keep fit or follow dreams. Your own mother calls. You begin to feel guilty when you haven’t answered after her 16th try that day. Except, you’re feeling relieved not talking to anyone.
When depression hits you, you feel immense pain. Not the physical pain, but the emotional pain. Nothing hurts more when it comes to a fight between you and your own brain. In some cases all that is won is numbness. More than likely, you’re unable to tell anyone right now out of fear. Fear of feeling ashamed and not understanding why it is your feeling this way. For this reason I will say that it’s ok, well for now at least. What if I told you, soon you will be able to talk to someone to seek understanding and help? I believe it is very important to get help. Whether from a proffessional or someone close to you which you trust. You would absolutely benifit from it, especially learning how to live like this. How? You ask. Well firstly by getting yourself out of the deep end. Below are three suggestions I personally believe to be very important starting points for dealing with this burnden. I’m not saying this will work for everyone, but could you say you tried?
Accepting and understanding you’re changing.
Accepting you have depression is the hardest thing you will do in this whole process. Once you have accepted that this is your life right now, you need to research. Read about other people’s experiences and look for informative and helpful resources. This may take some time in doing. The more knowledge you obtain, the more you will become familiar to it and then start putting in goals for yourself, no matter how big or small.
Imagine you start a brand new job, and you were chucked in the deep end with no help and no training. Majority of the time you wouldn’t understand what needed to be done. Although, through this process you eventually teach yourself which methods are used to keep the boss happy. When you finally feel comfortable in your new role, you feel proud because you accomplished something you started having no idea about it. That was all you and no one else.
Having depression is like being chucked in the deep end, it really feels like you need to do it alone. You learn about it, you organise it, you train it and most importantly, you become accepting you are changing. You can finally understand what you dealing with and how you’re about to face it.
Don’t rush, you’re not a superhero. It’s ok to take your time.
If you were in an accident where it involved losing an arm, do you think the arm that is still attached would start blaming it self? No. You’re brain would have to work hard to retrain that arm, noe that is has to do the same job as two arms. Sure, it will never be perfect like it was, except you would take you’re time to learn how to do everything differently.
The biggest mistake I made when being slapped with depression, I thought I could just jump straight back into my normal life routine. Trying to just move on, I went back to work with only having two weeks off. After a couple of weeks being back at work, I disappeared. I went M.I.A and they work didn’t see me again for months. I once again detached myself from the world. It made me feel more useless and made the whole situation worse. It got to the point I never left my room for quite sometime. I felt sick, even at the thought of going to the letterbox. It took a while for me to learn that I needed to take time with this.
We all heard of “take baby steps.” I’m telling you some days it betters to crawl. Which is fine, as long as you keep crawling towards where you need to be. These baby steps/crawling can be as simple as:
Taking a shower: feeling fresh and clean can have a lot of benefits.
- Doing the dishes and tidy the house: Clear house, clearer head.
- Wash/change your clothes: Putting new clothes on everyday, can make you feel alot better.
Sit in the Sun: We as human need the sun, which gives us good energy.
Give Yourself Loads of Praise
When someone praises you for a something, it makes you feel pretty good, don’t you think? Except, let me ask you this: when was the last time you gave yourself a pat on the back? In this dark time every pat counts. If you had that shower after five days, done the dishes or just did something you haven’t been able to, then try this. First ask yourself how it made you feel. It’s very important to note what you’re feeling; because you want to do more of the things that make you feel better. No matter what, praise yourself say something like: “Good Job, the house looks better when I tidied up today” or “ It’s been a long time since I had a shower. It feels good to know that I went through with it and can’t believe how clean and fresh I feel.” Obviously, say what you would think would boost your confidence more. Or reward yourself with something delicious, like chocolate.
These three things are not going to solve all your problems. However it may very well get you confident enough to start the real process. Helping to get your life back. With or without depression you can still thrive in a world of chaos.
Have you got any tips? What worked for you? Leave a comment below to share your thoughts.