First Steps of Living With Depression

Imagine you have been an active member of society, getting up, going to work, visiting family, friends, going to the gym or anything that your passion entices you to. However, in a blink of an eye, the society you once lived in suddenly becomes a stranger.

When society turns into a stranger, it becomes an oppression of the zero to a million thoughts thats inside your head. You can’t get out of bed to go make money, keep fit or follow dreams. Your own mother calls. You begin to feel guilty when you haven’t answered after her 16th try that day. Except, you’re feeling relieved not talking to anyone.

When depression hits you, you feel immense pain. Not the physical pain, but the emotional pain. Nothing hurts more when it comes to a fight between you and your own brain. In some cases all that is won is numbness. More than likely, you’re unable to tell anyone right now out of fear. Fear of feeling ashamed and not understanding why it is your feeling this way. For this reason I will say that it’s ok, well for now at least. What if I told you, soon you will be able to talk to someone to seek understanding and help? I believe it is very important to get help. Whether from a proffessional or someone close to you which you trust. You would absolutely benifit from it, especially learning how to live like this. How? You ask. Well firstly by getting yourself out of the deep end. Below are three suggestions I personally believe to be very important starting points for dealing with this burnden. I’m not saying this will work for everyone, but could you say you tried?

Accepting and understanding you’re changing.

Accepting you have depression is the hardest thing you will do in this whole process. Once you have accepted that this is your life right now, you need to research. Read about other people’s experiences and look for informative and helpful resources. This may take some time in doing.  The more knowledge you obtain, the more you will become familiar to it and then start putting in goals for yourself, no matter how big or small.

Imagine you start a brand new job, and you were chucked in the deep end with no help and no training. Majority of the time you wouldn’t understand what needed to be done. Although, through this process you eventually teach yourself which methods are used to keep the boss happy. When you finally feel comfortable in your new role, you feel proud because you accomplished something you started having no idea about it. That was all you and no one else.

Having depression is like being chucked in the deep end, it really feels like you need to do it alone. You learn about it, you organise it, you train it and most importantly, you become accepting you are changing. You can finally understand what you dealing with and how you’re about to face it.

Don’t rush, you’re not a superhero. It’s ok to take your time.

If you were in an accident where it involved losing an arm, do you think the arm that is still attached would start blaming it self? No. You’re brain would have to work hard to retrain that arm, noe that is has to do the same job as two arms. Sure, it will never be perfect like it was, except you would take you’re time to learn how to do everything differently.

The biggest mistake I made when being slapped with depression, I thought I could just jump straight back into my normal life routine. Trying to just move on, I went back to work with only having two weeks off. After a couple of weeks being back at work, I disappeared. I went M.I.A and they work didn’t see me again for months. I once again detached myself from the world. It made me feel more useless and made the whole situation worse. It got to the point I never left my room for quite sometime. I felt sick, even at the thought of going to the letterbox. It took a while for me to learn that I needed to take time with this.

We all heard of “take baby steps.” I’m telling you some days it betters to crawl. Which is fine, as long as you keep crawling towards where you need to be. These baby steps/crawling can be as simple as:

  • Taking a shower: feeling fresh and clean can have a lot of benefits.

  • Doing the dishes and tidy the house: Clear house, clearer head.
  • Wash/change your clothes: Putting new clothes on everyday, can make you feel alot better.
  • Sit in the Sun: We as human need the sun, which gives us good energy.

 Give Yourself Loads of Praise

When someone praises you for a something, it makes you feel pretty good, don’t you think? Except, let me ask you this: when was the last time you gave yourself a pat on the back? In this dark time every pat counts. If you had that shower after five days, done the dishes or just did something you haven’t been able to, then try this. First ask yourself how it made you feel. It’s very important to note what you’re feeling; because you want to do more of the things that make you feel better. No matter what, praise yourself say something like: “Good Job, the house looks better when I tidied up today” or “ It’s been a long time since I had a shower. It feels good to know that I went through with it and can’t believe how clean and fresh I feel.” Obviously, say what you would think would boost your confidence more. Or reward yourself with something delicious, like chocolate.

These three things are not going to solve all your problems. However it may very well get you confident enough to start the real process. Helping to get your life back. With or without depression you can still thrive in a world of chaos.

Have you got any tips? What worked for you? Leave a comment below to share your thoughts.



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  1. It sent as a message but really wanted to comment on here :p

    Thank you SO much for sharing this. I am currently going through it right now and maybe have been for a year. I have now come to realize that I need to get better for myself and make a consistent conscious effort to do so. Thank you for sharing your tips. As simple as they may be, it absolutely makes sense. My last breakdown was Friday and the whole week or two before that I can attest I neglected my home. I have started cleaning and asking myself “what would I do if I didn’t feel this way” and slowly doing them–cleaning, staying active physically and working on my passions. I figured if I do what is right, my brain will eventually follow. I kinda talked about it on my latest post.

    Much love,

  2. Hi Katrina, in times like this we always seem to forget the number one person.. I. I’m really glad you got something out of reading this. Doing those tips especially the accepting part was the best thing I could of done. I will check your blog out and follow you through your journey.

  3. This is so helpful. Most depression articles are all, exercise, proper diet, positive thinking etc. But for most of us even that is too hard. This is getting right back to raw basics. These are the little things that can eventually get that exercise started. It’s completely doable 😊 Even if you can’t tidy one room just make your bed. You’ll feel that bit more in control. When I have a bad week of not being able to function but having to being a single mum, I literally get through my day 10 minutes at a time. If I can get through this first 10 minutes, I can then focus on the next 10 minutes. And by the end of the day I’ve made it 😊 Looking forward to reading more!

  4. This definitely resonated with me. Last year I was diagnosed with depression and an eating disorder and self-care really helps.

  5. A really insightful peek into depression. I think it’s so important that you measure your own progress by your own standards, as you say- baby steps. Do what works for you on your own terms and celebrate or praise those small victories. Big love to you.x

    1. Yes Cynthia, most common mistake is we look for other people to tell us what a good job we are doing. Once you learn to praise yourself the sky is the limit

  6. A beautiful article. I’ve had my moments where I’ve struggled with depression. Mine was related to chronic pain and followed on with money problems. I’m very much out the other end and now dealing with the debt with a positive attitude. It’s such an important subject that not enough people talk about. Thanks for sharing your story with the world. I hope you write more, you’ve got an awesome writing style.

    1. Thank you for the comments. I’m so glad your looking at your situation in a different light. I am a new blogger and didn’t do very well in school, so to hear that you like the writing style has made my day already 🙂 thankyou

  7. I am a sufferer of depression and anxiety and this sure hits home. There are some things that help, like exercising but then there are times when nothing helps at all. My depression isn’t extreme but there are days when I just don’t want to do anything but lay in bed all day. I used to cry a whole lot more too. Thank goodness it doesn’t happen often. I honestly think that it’s more common than people seem to realise. And, although I have been living with it since my teenage years and bearable for me, I do want to see someone in the near future. Just fretting those drugs (if they were to prescribe that to me).

    1. Thanks for your comment. When and if you choose to see someone, you can discuss medication. I’m no doctor, however I made a personal choice not to take medication. It’s about finding yourself and what works best 🙂 bless you on your journey

  8. This post was exactly what I needed to read. I was diagnosed with anxiety and depression three years ago, and while I have gotten better, some days are worse than others, and those days feel like I am backtracking rather than moving forward. Tidying the house, or if it is all I can manage, my room, definitely helps me on most days. I am grateful that you included other ways to lift yourself up. Thank you so much for this!


    1. That’s right. People think they need to rush when it could do more damage than good. Hope your journey in living depression and anxiety is getting easier with time 🙂

  9. All so true, it can be hard to remember these things when you’re going through it, but knowing that you can move on and pick up with simple steps is so important!

  10. I can SO relate to this after having depression on and off for 20 years. It’s so tough not just when you’re depressed but when you start recovery. I’m picking up the pieces now and it’s so tiring. Thanks for sharing this to help me through.

  11. I needed to read this.

    I don’t praise myself enough when I do the simple things you’ve mentioned. Sometimes it get difficult that when something does get done, no one even notices after it’s been sitting there.

    Personally, I’m not a fan of doing anything alone or keeping things to myself. So usually I except someone to say anything to me. ;_;

    1. Hi stephe thanks for your comments. It’s very hard to do it by yourself for sure. But once we train ourselves to realise that the depression is ours it becomes more real. Pat yourself on the back for opening up right here, that’s huge in itself and you did that alone. Congratulations

  12. This was such a good read. I can see from the comments you really helped a lot of people. Thats really what blogging is all about. Keep it up

  13. Very well written great advice in there I’m proud of you and happy you are helping so meany people

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